I think my openness about my current views on relationships tends to throw some people off. While part of it is my introverted personality, a big part of it is simply me being open and honest at all times and most people are not open and honest. I see no reason to hide who I am or what I do, I feel no shame for my behavior and I think some women find that honesty refreshing.
There are many women out there who want to feel loved and intimate with a man but do not want a relationship in the traditional sense. Their reasons may vary significantly from woman to woman but if they are looking for something without commitment it can actually be hard to find. They can troll bars but this is potentially dangerous, requires navigating the ridiculous games people play, and brings stigmas with it that I find unfair but it is the reality we live in.
On the other hand, because I am honest and open I am able to build trust and provide support, intimacy, and even love. I am also someone who believes in complete confidentiality. I am also not a judgmental person, there is not a kink, fetish, preference, or desire that I would judge or make someone feel bad about.
To be clear, this is not about sex. This is about experiencing the love and joy that comes from being with someone who appreciates and cares for you. It is the height of the human experience… connecting with a person. Sometimes that means just curling up on the couch with someone, having a deep conversation, or going out on dates. It is about new experiences and sharing these experiences with someone who cares about you.
I don’t believe that anyone should be lonely or miss out on intimacy simply because they are not ready to commit to playing the game we call lifelong monogamy. The reality is that the vast majority of relationships fail and admitting this does not mean you should pull yourself away from happiness.
It is interesting to me that word-of-mouth is how most people find out about me. While I am open about my views I am rarely the first person to bring it up. A good female friend of mine was once asked if I am a womanizer, her response was perfect… she said, “No, Peter is not a womanizer, but he does love women”. That is the truth, I do love the views, spirit, and general outlook of all types of women. They do fascinate me and I enjoy their company, I guess that’s just who I am.
* Sorry, had to throw in an Atlas Shrugged reference. I basically provide support and love for someone until their John Galt comes along. Much like Hank did.
Wandering Oak 