Starting Again in Myrtle Beach

Warning: At the very bottom of this page there are two nude photos of me. They are simply nude images and are not sexual. Some of you may want to read this blog post but would be offended or disgusted by the so I wanted to give a content warning. There will be another warning immediately before the images.

After a lot of partying, we got out of DC last Tuesday and got to Myrtle Beach. It took several days to get everything in order (who knew moving was so stressful), but we are finally settled in and I’m ready to get my new routine started on Saturday. Being public with my routine can help keep my accountable, so I decided to share a bunch of info about what I’m doing over the next several months and why I am doing it.

One big thing is the half marathon I’m training for. I’ve never been a runner but I see this half marathon as an event to keep me motivated and active. I know that I will become very lazy and unhealthy if I stay physically stagnant, and I know specific events are one way that I can motivate myself. My life changes are not only going to involve running though, I really need to make myself more accountable and be able to self-start. School did a shitty job with that and I know I can easily fall into a funk and get lazy… basically, I lack discipline.

While my schedule will vary a bit based on daily needs, it is generally going to look like this:

  • 7am: Wake and morning routine – pee, weigh myself, big glass of water, cup of coffee, 10 minutes of meditation, stretch, sun salutations, push-ups, planks, pull-ups
  • 7:30am: Morning run – This will vary in length and location based on my training plan and includes running on the road, beach, dirt, and sprints up hills
  • 8:30am: Breakfast (~800kcal)
  • 9:00am: Blogging
  • 10:30am: Snack (~100kcal) and walk to the YMCA for yoga or weight lifting
  • 12:30pm: Lunch (~450kcal)
  • 3pm: Snack (~150kcal) and go for a walk
  • 4pm: Bike home and write or study
  • 5:30pm: Dinner (~300kcal)
  • 6pm: Go for a walk
  • 7pm: Prep for next day – Figure out running route, prep gym bag, prep any food, etc.
  • 7:30pm: Movie/show time with Anna
  • 8:30pm: Snack (~150kcal)
  • 9pm: Meditate and read
  • 10pm: Bed

Some notes:

  • While walking I will be hunting Pokemon, and I’m going to try and stay outside as much as possible. Gotta get that D!
  • My writing and study time is for a lot of things, including prepping for grad school, learning a new language, writing and submitting pieces for pay, writing several of the books we have in mind, and Khan Academy (and similar courses)
  • I’m working at the library to keep distractions at a minimum. I want my home to be home and work to be work. Also, no work in the bedroom… I may not even keep my computer in the bedroom.
  • I’m cutting out all fluids except water, tea, and coffee. Beer will only be consumed at special occasions (like, once a month or something)
  • I deleted the Facebook app off my phone and installed an app into Chrome that limits my time on Facebook to 45 minutes every day.
  • I’m trying to do cheap and free things to save money and work less. Right now there is a running club and cycling club that has cheap/free events, but if I feel the need or desire I might add some other things like:
    • Physical stuff: Kickboxing, more yoga, acro-yoga, fire staff dancing, rock climbing, tai chi, barre, dance, trampoline
    • Social stuff: kink and poly community, burner community, intramural sports teams, pagan community, Unitarian Universalist church
    • Skills: Musical instrument, photography, archery, firearm marksmanship, multiple orgasms
    • Other: Foreskin restoration, tie dye shirts, dog training, coloring
  • Saturdays will be different, on Saturdays I will prep most of my food for the week, take picture, and do measurements.
  • After 8pm my computer will be turned off and my phone will only be used to play music or podcasts to help me sleep

In order to track my body changes during this time of training I will check the following things regularly:

  • Weight – Daily (weighing myself daily also helps keep me accountable)
  • Measurements – Weekly (Waist, Chest, Neck, Biceps, Thighs, Calves)
  • Calories – Daily (I’ve got a plan in place but that may adjust depending on other goals and how hungry I feel)
  • Mood – Daily
  • Sex Drive – Daily
  • Resting Heart Rate – Weekly
  • Blood Pressure – Whenever a machine is available
  • Miles walked, ran, and biked – Daily
  • Hours slept

My starting stuff is:

  • Weight – 178 lbs
  • Waist – 36.5 in
  • Chest – 40 in
  • Neck – 15.5 in
  • Biceps – R 14 in, L 14 in
  • Thighs – R 24.25 in, L 24.25 in
  • Calves – R 14.5 in, L 14.5 in
  • Mood – 4 out of 10 – Excited to get started with the day but pretty tired
  • Sex Drive – 4 out of 10
  • Resting Heart Rate – 58 bpm

So, that’s the next few months. All this is open to change, but I’m fucking excited.

Oh yeah, I forgot something….

Warning: Nude images below this paragraph. I decided to put nude images for a couple of reasons. First, I think it is neat to keep images of our bodies as we age. I wish I had more nude images of myself from every year of my life. I think the body is fascinating in how it changes over time and there is value in seeing our past selves with more mature eyes. Of course, that doesn’t explain why I am making these public… Second, I think the world needs more non-sexual nude images of ordinary people. Most nudity is sexualized in our culture, and even artistic nude images tend to be models that are incredibly slim or muscular. I am neither of those things and I see some value in making my form public. Third, I have some body confidence issues and have some reservations about being naked. I think posting nude images will help me overcome that. I want to be someone who is comfortable nude, and as they say, you gotta fake it until you make it. Fourth, I’m going to be working hard to train for a half marathon and to become more healthy and fit. It will be cool to see the changes my body undergoes in that time so I’ll be sharing more nude images of myself (probably weekly) between now and October. Having a public audience for these images (even if that audience is fictional) can help keep me accountable to my fitness and diet routine.

So, on to the images…

Wow, wasn’t that scandalous?


Next Chapter

I’ve been having a lot of trouble focusing on my writing lately. To be honest, the only thing on my mind is the next chapter of my life that is about to begin. I made the announcement on Facebook last week, but I have not written anything about it here yet. Long story short, Anna and I have decided to pause the bike ride for a few years and move to Wilmington, NC. I don’t want to rehash all the reasons here (though, I will copy/paste my Facebook status at the bottom of the post for those interested), but it is something we are both incredibly excited about.

Why Wilmington? Well, it has so much that we look for in a town plus a ton of bonuses. The city is dog-friendly, bike-friendly, cheap, near a beach, has a college, and an active community. It is also near bigger cities that can provide opportunities for new sexual experiences, concerts, and an airport for travel. It is also near the mountains and the city of Asheville, which is an area we’ve always wanted to visit and hope to spend a fair amount of time in. It is also a reasonable drive to other places we love like Charleston, Savannah, Richmond, and DC (well, we don’t love DC, but we love some of our friends who live there). The cheap housing will also allow us to get a multi-bedroom house with a yard on our budget, which means lots of Couchsurfing/Warmshowers hosting, friends can visit, and we can start gardening and home brewing.

So, what will this new chapter mean for my life?

Work will be the same, though I may look for some part time work depending on how expensive life gets. It has been a while since I was in a stable location for several years. I am pretty minimalist but there might be some unexpected needs or wants that pop up. Life on a bike is really cheap (you basically have only a cell phone and health insurance bill), living in a house is very different. The things I’m really excited about is focusing on rounding out my mental, spiritual, and physical fitness.

Health has a lot to do with diet and having a kitchen will put me in greater control of what goes into my tummy. Ideally I will be able to take my veganism closer to “raw” and cut out some of the processed foods that have been a part of my bike riding diet. I did a quick meal plan (below) and I should be able to spend less than $100 a week on food and easily meet my dietary needs. Also, and this is a big one, I’m basically cutting out alcohol for the next few months. The only time I will drink is special occasions, like an upcoming bachelorette party in Canada and my birthday in October. Other than that, I will try not to drink any alcohol and will not keep any in the house. Luckily, Anna supports this and has the same goals. Having a partner that shares your goals and methods is super important to success.

In addition to my food, exercise is going to be important for me to feel healthy. It would be really easy for me to get out of shape when we stop. A major benefit of the bike ride was activity was a necessary part of life, now I will need to make an effort. Anna and I signed up for a half-marathon to help with motivation and I will be joining the local YMCA to use their weight room, pool, and yoga classes. We are also joining a local cycling and running club to get some community support and to make friends. I’m also interested in barre and martial arts, but I’m not sure if I will jump into that right away.

I’ve never run a half-marathon before. In fact, I really haven’t run at all since my time in Army, so I have no idea what I’m doing. But, then again, I had never really biked before my first cross-country ride and that seemed to turn out okay. I am taking precautions with the running and will be consulting with professionals to make sure I have the right shoes and get a training plan that works for me. I know that running uses different muscles than cycling and is harder on the knees. As much as I want robot knees someday I don’t think the technology is advanced enough in 2016, so I should probably take care of my body.

I will be very likely be recording this time in detail and blogging about it. I want to keep track of my weight, measurements, and such during the few months leading up to the half-marathon. During this time I will take lots of nude pictures to have a visual record of this time, and they will probably be shared on this site. Don’t worry, I will provide ample warnings to prevent anyone from accidentally seeing my booty or flaccid penis in these non-sexual (kind of medical) pics.

This break will also give me an opportunity to focus more on my writing. I am dedicated to finishing the book about my solo cross-country bike ride, as well as submitting some of my sci-fi story ideas to be published. Anna and I are also working on a series of children’s books about our adventures around the US and a “Couple’s Guide to Adventuring” that will share what we’ve learned by spending two years together cycling nearly 10,000 miles.

Another thing we are looking forward to is accomplishing things that are impossible on the road. We want to expand our sex life to be more than just “maintenance sex”, we want to start gardening, and I want to become fluent in a foreign language. I’ll also be doing a lot of reading about transpersonal psychology to decide if that is a future career path.

To be honest, the thing I’m looking forward to most is building a community. Some of the clubs we will join will help with that, but I also want to start volunteering. I’m sure I can find local animal shelters, LGBT community centers, women’s shelters, and Planned Parenthood facilities that can use support and volunteers. The kindness of strangers has been such a part of my life and I want to make sure I’m returning the karma.

Anyway, I’m fucking excited and I can’t stop making lists and schedules and researching all the things I want to do. My little heart is all a flutter with the possibilities.


*Facebook Announcement*
“After a short conversation, Anna and I have decided to stop the bike ride for a few years after this next week. There were several factors that influenced this decision. None of them alone would be enough for us to alter our plans, but all of them together made us realize that we needed to change.

First, we just weren’t having that much fun anymore. Our frustration and stress runs deeper than the shitty roads of the south. We both started dreading the days when we had to ride. We love cycling, but that doesn’t mean we want to be forced to do it. It is better to stop now than to keep going until we hate it.

Second, we have been presented with an opportunity to live with our friendIvy for a few months and then move to Wilmington for a few years. As wonderful as it is to travel, we haven’t really had solid home since 2014 and we miss it a bit. We want to do home brewing, yoga, gardening, go on our honeymoon, get tattoos, learn to dance, begin fire staff again, take up rock climbing or surfing, foster animals, go to Burning Man, host Couchsurfers, take classes, etc, and that is more plausible with a home.

Third, the current logistics would make much of our journey a terrible rush… and we don’t want that. It is hot as balls and we would be on time crunch to get north.

So, what does that mean for you?
Probably nothing, unless you want to come visit us in Wilmington and hang out on the beach in the next few years. You have a place with us.

Post-Script: There was a surprising surge of anxiety about this while we discussed it. We felt like we were quitters or something… Luckily, we realized that bullshit. It is our life to do what we wish, and that includes changing your mind. You shouldn’t let past decision prevent future pleasure.”

*Starting Meal Plan*
Total Calories: ~2,000
Protein: ~77g
Fat: ~65g
Carbs: ~227g

Breakfast – Oatmeal with fruit, black bean and veggie scramble, avocado toast (~820 calories)
Snack 1 – Almonds (~100 calories)
Lunch – Veggie wraps (~450 calories)
Snack 2 – Grilled tofu salad (~150 calories)
Dinner – Veggie soup or bowl or chili (~300 calories)
Snack 3 – Fruit and nuts (150 calories)

Starting Meal